Book Summary
Discover the compelling journey of three young men away from home for
their freshman year at HBCU, Winton College. The young women are plentiful,
but will navigating school along with dating, relationships, and the challenge
to wait until marriage for sex may prove to be too much for them?
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Bible Study and Discussion Guide
Enhance your Exactly How It's 'Posed to Be" experience with this ALL NEW Bible Study Discussion Guide, specifically designed to accompany the novel.
The discussion guide connects this HBCU love story to God's Word and your everyday life, making it an extremely valuable resource for personal and spiritual growth.
Who Is This Book For?
Especially young, Black men dealing with the confusing world of relationships with young women.
For most, everyone seems to be “doin' it!" But what looks like fun, may turn out to be something else entirely.
This entertaining, faith-based romance will help them think about the long-term NOW, so they can make good decisions for a successful future down-the-road.
Who Else Is This Book For?
Parents, you may not have waited until you were married for sex, but now you wish you had.
This faith-based romance is a GREAT conversation starter for you and your sons (and even daughters) to talk about the uncomfortable topic of dating, premarital sex, and the right way to handle it all.
Who Else Is This Book For?
Anyone who positively influences these young men—youth pastors, uncles, aunties, play cousins, madeas, grammies, poppies, and the rest of y'all!
This college love story underscores the consequences of premarital sex and will be a blessing to ANY young person whose hands you put it in!
Founded in 1902 by twin brothers, Johnson and Aldous Winton, this school—one of the nation's finest Historically Black Colleges or Universities —exemplifies high achievement in every aspect of life.
450 acres of high-tech facilities, laboratories, libraries, dorms, and classrooms.
This institution stands as one of the finest pillars of Black educational excellence and is the exquisite backdrop for this story.
Check Out A Piece of the Novel
No one would argue that the Winton College Back-2-School-Bash is the highlight of Welcome Week. In fact, Glen and his best friend, ride-or-die, Reshard have thirsted for the Bash ever since high school. Now that they've made it to Winton, everything Glen (in particular) has dreamed of awaits him at the end of the line to the Bash.
Expand the section below to check out this excerpt from the novel and see what happens as the two await entry to the dopest party of the semester!
The Back-2-School-Bash
“Oh, it’s straight lit up…in…there! Bananas!” Reshard proclaimed. His lanky vantage point provided a clear view of the action at the end of the lengthy line he and Glen stood in. “Oooh, I’ve been waitin’ to get up in there my whole life!”
“For real? Your whole life?” Glen responded.
“You know what I mean! It’s the Bash! We’ve been talkin’ about this since freshman year at Hamilton! Now we here!”
The Back-to-School-Bash, the final party before classes started every fall, held a cult-like status among incoming freshmen, by far the most anticipated event of Winton College Welcome Week.
“You ready?” Reshard asked Glen.
Glen side-eyed his friend; his ego refusing to allow him to answer out loud.
Born…ready.
“Don’t know why I even asked. Look at your `fit!” Reshard noted.
Glen spun quickly allowing a view of the pristine, white suit he wore from all angles.
“The suit’s straight fire! For real!” Reshard said. “And the red bow tie... torch, bruh. Torch!”
A young lady poured into a sparkly black dress strolled by, winking at Glen as she too noticed his killer outfit. A second girl passed, and threw a similar glance his way.
“Bro, once we get inside, you’re gonna have more hunnies than you can handle! Check out how they’re throwin' eyes at you!” Reshard stated.
Glen nodded confidently while inside his stomach flipped.
The line pressed forward. The music grew louder, and Reshard followe suit, growing even more animated.
Then with only two students in front of them, Reshard elbowed Glen and said, “Got your ID? They’re checkin’ them at the door.”
“Yeah, right here,” Glen said holding up the brand-new Winton College ID he’d just worked so hard to secure.
Reshard busted out in laughter.
“Nah man! Not that ID,” he declared. “Your Body Count card!”
“My…Body Count card?”
“Dude, stop actin’ simple,” Reshard said. “You know you gotta show your Body Count card to get up in the Bash! You think they’re lettin’ virgins up in this one? Nah, bro! That ain’t happenin’! They gotta see your card!”
Beads of sweat began forming across Glen’s face. He reached for his wallet and started leafing through the various froms of plastic inside.
“Bruh, what're you sweatin’ for? You don’t have to worry about nothin’,” Reshard said. “I know you get yours! Probably got plenty of stamps on your card!” He smugly held up his own Body Count card before presenting it to the guardians at the front door of the Bash.
Panic swept over Glen.
“Card please,” the door attendant said with an extended hand.
He felt a drop of sweat slide along his face and eventually fall from his chin.
“C’mon Glen,” Reshard said standing in the doorway of the Bash. “Just show them your card and get your a-- in here!”
Two of the hottest young women Glen ever laid eyes on suddenly appeared from the depths of the party taking Reshard by the arm.
“Card please.” The door attendant’s voice grew more impatient.
“Hurry up Glen! Get in here!” Reshard beckoned.
“Yeah, hurry up Glen. Get in here!” the two young women with him echoed.
“Uh, if you don’t have a Body Count card, you’re gonna have to leave!” the door attendant seemed to shout.
Damn. Why you talkin’ so loud? Glen thought.
He glanced around at a sea of thirsty freshmen staring at him…the dude holding up the line to the Bash.
“Uh, I can’t seem to find…” his voice trailed away.
Why Is This Book So Necessary Today?
Well, here are just a few statistics...
90%
of men have already had sex before marriage. The stats are not much better for women at 89%
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
72%
of Black men have had a child out of wedlock.
According to Pew Research
69%
of Black women give birth outside of marriage.
According to Child Trends
Without fathers...
children are at FOUR times greater risk for poverty. SEVEN times more likely to become pregnant as teens. TWO times more likely to drop out of school. More likely to go to prison. More likely to commit crime. More likely to face abuse and neglect. More likely to abuse drugs and alcohol. More likely to have behavioral problems.
According to the National Fatherhood Initiative
One In Five
One out of every five people in the U.S. have a sexually transmitted infection or disease.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
This is NOT what GOD intended for us!
These statistics are stunning! God never wanted us to live like this! He wants us to experience His best in life. Waiting until marriage for sex as He instructed helps us avoid all of this! We are exposed to all of these things that can harm us physically, emotionally and relationally when we do things our own way. If we would just follow His instruction, we'd live above all of this drama and pain. But it's up to us. We have to choose!
That's why this book was written!
To encourage young men to choose a different way. To consider the long-term benefits of waiting for sex until marriage rather than walking the same path of promiscuity that so many walk today.
Not in a preachy, finger-pointing, holier-than-thou kind of way, but through a dope, entertaining, down-to-earth practical story that all can enjoy.
If that’s you, or if you want to sow into the life of a young man on the verge of deciding which path to take, you'll want to grab a copy of this book right away.
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The Author
Trent D. Walters grew up writing short stories and narratives as a child. He graduated with a degree in journalism and spent nearly twenty-six years working in advertising before turning his attention back to writing.
Today he writes “Purpose Fiction,” entertaining novels that draw people to the wonderful plan God has for every reader.
He and his wife Sandra met in college through a story similar to Exactly How It’s `Posed to Be.
They’ve been married now for twenty-seven years and have two grown children, Brendan and Kensley.
Trent and Sandra reside in the Dallas-Fort Worth area.
People LOVE this book! It's changing lives!
Exactly How It's `Posed to Be
"This is the book I never knew I needed. It is an entertaining yet purposeful journey that helps cultivate a desire for sexual purity in young men. It's an awesome read and a fun time that you'll enjoy every page of!"
"I can confidently say that this book is a must-read for young men preparing to get out on their own in the world. Not only is it an excellent and entertaining story, but it is an insightful and purposeful read that will undoubtedly make mark on anyone who opens it."
"This book will literally change any young Black man's life (or anyone else really). I read it (nearly 500 pages) in one day!"
"This book is great for helping college students keep it together while trying to navigate relationships away from home."
"An entertaining book that makes you think....makes you think A LOT. It will challenge you—what are you going to do? Read it and let it change you."
"It is an enthralling and touching story that tells a cautionary tale of the importance of sexual purity. I cannot recommend this book enough."
